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In the West, couples often seek post-marital counselling to bring a rocky marriage back on track. Now, with an alarming rise in divorce rates in India, the Western trend is permeating amongst Indians. Thus couples are increasingly seeking professional help to keep their marriage on an even keel. |
The latest thing is to go through pre-marital compatibility test, followed by pre-marital counselling. Such a test will be a preventive measure to avoid or alleviate unnecessary suffering, while pre-marital counselling will help couples to know their partners better.
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I feel that the couple must go in for a compatibility test, irrespective of whether it is arranged marriage or love marriage. The fact is counselling is far more important in a love marriage, since the couple by definition is blinded by mutual love, so that it tends to ignore realities of life that leads to various differences in their married life.
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The marriage compatibility is tested in couples, or potential couples through personality analysis. The personality test combines palm reading with a psychologically designed question-answer session.
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The examination of hand reveals true characteristics of a person with respect to his physical state, nature, emotions, temperament, level of intellect, financial status. |
The test is designed to determine physical, emotional, intellectual and financial compatibility between two individuals. |
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Physical compatibility between two persons is the most important single factor in the institution of marriage. Varying sexual orientation of either partner can wreck a marriage. Most marriages will fail sooner or later where partners are not sexually compatible. |
If one is over- sexed or under- sexed there will be a tussle in married life; because in such a situation either partner may be participating in the act of love unwillingly. In another situation one of the partners might remain sexually starved. Either way, it is an unpleasant situation, which is not conducive to a happy married life. |
The ideal situation would be if the couple has the same libido level. The problem is more acute where the husband is impotent, or the wife frigid. Such marriages do not long last. |
It is important that couples get proper sex education. In Indian society, sex is still a taboo; most Indians are misled by pornography and old wives tale. The result is that we are mystified about all that relates to sex. |
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Emotional compatibility covers a wide range of emotions, temperament, nature, habits, and attitudes. The examination of hand and the psychological test would reveal whether your partner is domineering, mild-tempered or down right subdued; whether your partner is hypersensitive or large- hearted, whether or not your partner takes you into confidence. |
A correct reading of the palm and psychological test reveals attitudes of helping, caring, being appreciative, or otherwise. |
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It is rare in modern times that two individuals of different level of intellect live amicably under the same roof. If the couple has the same level of intelligence then inter-action between man and wife is more likely to be harmonious. There would always be a room for dialogue and discussion. |
On the other hand, the less intelligent partner may remain subdued, suffer from an inferiority complex; and play the second fiddle to the other. The more intelligent partner may give up on unintelligent talk. The end result is misery and sufferance. Therefore, intellectual compatibility is vital for a happy married life. |
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Similarly, in the present day world, financial compatibility is crucial to a happy married life matters and it matters a lot to sustain the marriage. |
Based on the results of the compatibility test, Col. Guru prescribes remedial measures in the form of counselling and cosmic meditation. |
| Some more excerpts from Col Guru's book : |
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